Really wanting to do and enjoy something, or really wanting to speak to someone without them realising how we really feel inside, making sense of what we say and wishing for good feedback but knowing exactly how that will end up…
Self-confidence is a very important aspect of a person and when we are lacking it we are missing out on life so much!
Lack in self-confidence goes hand in hand with social anxiety but not everyone lacking in self-confidence is also socially anxious. This is because sometimes we are very good at masking our deepest feelings and the anxiety connected with not being good enough will only show when we are to face more challenging situations, such as speaking to a particular person, or when we are faced with some sort of a test such as a driving test, a job interview or a speech, or again, when we are dissatisfied with someone’s behaviour but we cannot bring ourselves to voice our feelings.
Our quality of life goes hand in hand with the amount of self-confidence we have, as if we have solid self-esteem we will deeply believe that we are good enough as we are, and therefore believe we deserve the good things that life has to offer. This will make us look for challenges by setting goals for ourselves and then go about reaching them, thus feeding ourselves with a sense of purpose, positivity and accomplishment that make for a good quality of life.
Self-confidence is instilled very early in life, and as a result a person’s self-esteem starts to suffer as early, sometimes as early as during pre-school years and even more so during primary school. Children process information and learn at different speeds and also at different levels. So it is inevitable that with so many new experiences to be integrated into their daily routine some may change the way a child perceives him/herself.
In addition, because of the general lack of knowledge on how certain episodes will affect a child’s self-esteem it isn’t easy for a parent to do a great job at gifting their children with unshakable self-esteem, and thus sometimes the parental expectations – if too high for the stage of development the child is at – will add to feelings of not doing well enough, which a child automatically internalises as not “being” good enough.
In other instances a background of comparison between siblings from the parents ignites the most ruthless competition and someone is bound to suffer!
Or again, when a child is raised in an environment prone to criticism and poor in recognition, low self-esteem is instilled very early on.
The worst cases of low self-esteem are obviously due to childhood trauma especially if it was perpetrated over a period of time.
So there are countless of experiences that can dent a child’s self-confidence and being able to share their feelings and concerns with an adult who can reassure them and help them overcome the experiences can make all the difference, however, young children don’t have the ability to express their feelings and emotion which makes it even more difficult for a parent to help.
Ultimately though, no matter how little self-esteem you can have, this can be easily restored with hypnotherapy, once those episodes are worked with at a deeper level so they can correctly be processed by the brain.
Remember: “Nothing is Impossible, the word itself says I’M POSSIBLE!”