Grief and Bereavement
Bereavement is normally associated with someone’s death but there are actually many situations in life that can bring about grief and as a result a period of bereavement, as the mind tries to process what has happened.
Grief is a deep emotional void left a result of some loss, be it a physical loss or an emotional loss.
Grief can be experienced as the result of a relationship break-up, either for the child of divorcing parents or for the loss/end of the relationship itself, and not necessarily intimate, ie. losing our best friend as a result of moving home or school.
It can also be the consequence of not having lived fully a certain period of life, like having missed on a happy childhood or youth, or the realisation of missed opportunities such as that of creating a family, or having had to give up on our aspirations because of some situational constraints.
But it can also be the result of a financial loss, losing your job or home, or also the result of the loss of a certain life-style, again, for example the change in lifestyle experienced by a child when the parents separate or move city or even country.
All these kind of situations and many more that I haven’t outlined will have a period of bereavement where the person needs to process the change and adapt to new life.
Unfortunately for children it is particularly difficult to process change as they feel the safest in their routines. This means that any majour change in their life is likely to disrupt them emotionally and may never recover from it.
This is why a period of bereavement may not be enough for someone to move on with life and grief is a deep feeling that if unresolved can lead to depression.
Anyone experiencing depression is grieving some sort of loss but not everyone going through grief will develop depression. When grief doesn’t seem to resolve within up to around 2 years-time (this is the standard length of bereavement), depending on the cause, it is important to seek professional support in order to close the grieving cycle and move on.
While we will be able to rationalise the loss sooner or later, we might not necessarily process the loss at a deeper level, which is why we may be mourning the loss literally for a lifetime, with obvious consequences to our mental wellbeing.
By working with the unconscious mind which is the part of the mind which is affected more deeply by the loss, the loss-causing event is processed, so the stuck grief is released. This way the experience can be placed in the past once and for all, thus enabling the person to cherish the memories and move on with their life.
Remember: “Nothing is Impossible, the word itself says I’M POSSIBLE!”